The Psychological Effect Of Watching A Portfolio Slowly Disintegrate

There is something fascinating about writing. When I target a topic, I get so much inspiration that I’m able to write an entire series. This is exactly what happened during the month of February, when I wrote about investing and retirement.
What fascinates me is that no matter how much time I spend thinking of my topic and twisting it one way or another, there is always something else to write about. As I was about to tweet about my achievement of the day (which was being able to build an Orc Army... hahaha!), a reader reached out to me with a more serious matter:
You are right, John. We don’t talk enough about the psychological effect of seeing your portfolio dying slowly. The whole industry is about saving, investing and managing your portfolio for retirement. Funny enough, there isn’t much literature about what happens next.
How does it feel to look at your melting portfolio?
I know, some of you were much disciplined investors with the ability to build a nest egg so strong that you can live off your dividend and not touch your capital. This is quite an achievement that most investors will not reach. I know for a fact that I won’t make it to this point, because I would rather rent a vacation property for a week during spring break with my family, going to Guatemala with my wife and exploring the maritime with my RV next summer. Oh, did I tell you I’m going to Vietnam for 2 months in early 2019? Yeah, that’s why I will build a big portfolio, but not big enough to support my lifestyle with dividend payments only.
When I look at my portfolio on a bad year and I see that I’m losing money on paper, I always feel a small sting in my spine. But it doesn’t last long as I know that my portfolio is well-built and that my dividend will continue to grow. However, I remember discussing the real meltdown problem with my clients.
The moment you stop making money, you stop saving. Then, you are forced to withdraw from your portfolio. This is the point of no return. Each month, your portfolio drops a little. It’s like there was a small hole in your wine bottle and you don’t get to drink it all, as the wine is leaking slowly on the other side. You feel helpless because there is no way you can put money back in. You have worked very hard your whole life, only to see your greatest financial achievement reaching sunset as you grow older.
It gets worse when you hit a market correction. Then, you really feel like the boat is leaking from everywhere. How can you master your emotions and enjoy your retirement when your money is running away from you?
There is one thing I’ve learned about fear
During my 1-year RV trip in Central America, I had multiple opportunities to master my fears. This is how I realized that fear is very powerful, but happens only in a single place: your mind. The emotion of fear is fueled by the unknown. Since our brain can’t figure out what is coming next, it tells you it must be bad. What if this... what if that... and so on.
When you start withdrawing from your portfolio, you don’t know exactly what’s coming up next. You see the value of your portfolio going down, you see the market pushing it further and then you think you are going to go broke. You have been conditioned your whole life to save and accumulate. For the first time, you have to learn the other way around: spend and withdraw.
You will fear that your portfolio drops too fast. You will fear that you won’t have enough. You will fear being forced to sell your house. You will fear living in a small apartment and dying poor after you worked so hard for that retirement.
Do you really have to fear? How can you continue to sleep well at night? The only thing that will put the fear back in its cage is knowledge. If you know, you won’t fear anymore.
The most boring financial advice ever
Do you know how I saved my clients from their worst nightmare? I did it with the most boring financial advice ever: I wrote down a retirement plan for them, and we reviewed it yearly. The only way you will not panic about how much you withdraw each month is by knowing you can safely do it. The financial plan retirement is crucial. It’s your roadmap to a good night’s sleep. A good plan will show you the evolution of your portfolio. It will show you that it’s completely normal to see the overall value going down, and that your portfolio will outlive you.
While you review it each year, you will avoid bad surprises. You will remain in control and adjust accordingly. I will tell you no lie; it is incredibly boring to go through all those pages of graphics and explanation with your financial planner. It’s like watching a documentary about the history of motor engineering; it’s filled with numbers and geeky expression. Still, this is what’s going to help you sleep at night.
Still panicking?
If the financial plan isn’t enough and you still feel uncomfortable about your portfolio melting, there are a few things you can do. Getting a side job to earn a few bucks a month could help you feel financially more stable. It is only normal to feel lost when your whole life you worked and earned money. Therefore, if you can find a side gig, you will definitely feel better withdrawing from your portfolio.
You can also fix goals. For example, how about trying to live on a smaller budget than what’s written in your plan and start saving a part of your withdrawal in an “emergency account”? I’ve seen many clients starting to save a few hundred dollars per month just to keep the habit of saving alive.
In the end, I would suggest you discuss this matter with your friends. Chances are you are living the same thing as them. Money is taboo and often leaves you with a feeling of loneliness. Break the cycle and you will discover that you are not in such a bad situation after all!
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Comments (45)

Unfortunately, we are the only advanced industrial economy where you will go bankrupt because of health care expenses. Only the ultra rich - the top few percent - have enough money to outlast the cost of anywhere between $5K-$10Ka month for health care. Frankly, the average is probably closer to $100K per year and if you get a serious disease - like cancer, forget about these numbers, the drugs and health care alone may be $100K per month. Along with the other living expenses, the Required Minimum Distribution, and the taxes you'll owe on that while medical expense deductions are reduced and you might as well stop worrying now.
I don't hear many of many advisors talking about how to prepare to go on Medicaid and leave something of your hard-earned gains to your heirs. LTC is being proven to be the chimera it always was as we let the health care industry blitzkrieg our economy and, frankly, our health (opioids anyone? and that is the tip of the iceberg).
Personally, I have a well planned strategy to depart this mortal coil on my own terms. Consult your Doctor on his or her final plan, not your Financial Advisor. I am ticking off my bucket list with gusto while working to making this world a little bit safer and better for all of us - which has to do with making memories with those I love and caring about my community - and I will draw down at whatever rate and be pissed off at the speculators. I still am careful and conscientious about my investing. But, I am focused on legacy and money is a very small part of that. Money is not happiness; ergo dividends are not happiness.
To quote another famous commentator: Good Night and Good Luck...and with a snub of the nose to Dylan Thomas: I shall welcome that "good night"

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Medicaid Planning *is a thing.* You should see an attorney specializing in Estate Planning.
Good for you for improving the World already, while you and others can have satisfactions from that already.




"If I can make, say $5000 per year in a part-time job, that's the equivalent of having $125,000 invested and withdrawing it at 4%. Plus, the income eliminates the need to harvest anything to get the $5000, so that's an additional long-term benefit. Nothing in your portfolio has been depleted."That is a great insight. Goes along with something I read from you a while back about your thinking about Social Security. Helped us a great deal in making our own plans. Thanks again for all your helpfulness.
Coleman

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And it was a fun job. Now I run the place as general manager. OK I basically un-retired myself unexpectedly. I wasn't forced to, I could have continued indefinitely part-time, but I enjoyed the work so much, I couldn't turn down the offer when it came along. If I die at 65, OK, this last decade has been fabulous (and may have extended my life).I no longer think about how much money I will need for retirement, though I continue to invest. Instead I focus on how I really want to use these precious few years I have left.







