Worry is the biggest obstacle standing between most people and their dreams, because they’re basically scared of being “rejected.” Franklin Roosevelt made history when he commented that “we have nothing to fear but fear itself.” With tough economic times made worse daily by the bombardment of the media with stats and data of doom, no wonder we may be fearful. But we needn’t fall victim to the negative mass hysteria. We needn’t worry…
Worry is prepaid interest on debt that hasn’t come due yet.
Of course, it’s easy for us to convince ourselves otherwise. We sit at home or at our desk conjuring up all of the things that may or could go wrong. We work on our worse case hypothetical playbook and end up spending most of our time on the “sidelines” instead of “in” the game of life. Time’s up, practice is over.
The Dalai Lama was asked what surprised him the most and he replied;
It’s time you really put yourself “out there,” with the energy and commitment necessary to succeed. Forget fear. Here’s how to defeat fear and its paralyzing, energy-robbing force and kill the anxiety of the unknown:
1. What’s the Worst that could Happen?
“Why do I fear rejection and what could happen that’s so devastating so that it’s not even worth trying?” 98% of the time when you ask for the order or the job (or the date) if the other party declines your offer, they will be polite and professional. Big deal, they said no and most of the time that’s what you will hear. BUT NOT ALL OF THE TIME.
And it’s those one or maybe two times a day (or week) that will make the big difference in your life today versus yesterday and more importantly, tomorrow. You can build a hugely successful business or career with those one or two “yes” answers – it’s simply a numbers game. Just keep asking the question you want answered to enough people every day and you’ll succeed in finding your next job, career, partner, soul mate, passion and revelation or epiphany. In reality, most people you ask for help or a job (or anything, for that matter) will be flattered that you made the attempt (although they may not show it). Start approaching those who can help you reach your goals, in person, and as many times as you can. Besides the fact that nothing improves performance like practice, all of this real-world “evidence” about what really happens will become your new reality.
You’ll learn that “rejection” won’t kill you; It won’t even leave a bruise.
2. Be the Ball = Visualize SUCCESS (And Its Rewards)
Once you’ve escaped the destructive habit of imagining “devastating” rejection, you will be able to see the light at the end of tunnel. Understanding how to stop fearing and start creating (by acting confident, in control and mixing in the right amount of humor) will result in positive changes in your life and career. The reward is life changing. Take the time to literally close your eyes and visualize “you” where you dream to be, imagine it.
3. Practice makes Perfect – Work On Your “Mental Game”
You must understand how to create feelings of ATTRACTION for your skills, your product or a relationship to enhance the chances of success. Creating attractive feelings has nothing to with looks or money, but with becoming confident with asking for the order or for the meeting that will allow you to start connecting with them emotionally. Just continue daily working through the mental motions to master the emotions.
The world will eventually end, but it won’t be today. Now get out there and do the hokey pokey because maybe that is what it’s all about.